I still vividly remember the day when my middle brother who had recently joined an engineering college felt nostalgic about home, escaped from his hostel on the first weekend to meet his family. Much to my surprise, my father who had been very loving issued a stern warning to my brother that this kind of visit should be his first and last. That he should now try adapting to the hostel life, make new friends and work harder towards a better career. I could not comprehend my father's behaviour at that point of time because the college was just around 200km from our hometown and to me it made sense him coming over the weekend. Nevertheless his frequency of visits reduced but his attachement for the family continues till day. This has been the kind of society we have grown up in. Though we got the decision making power a bit late (compared to the West) but it ensured that the ability and the credibility of the decisions taken afterwards would never be in doubt. We were fortunate to have the covering of love and belongingness which protected us from the vices and kept the unwanted things at bay.
Moving into the 21st century with gloalization putting a significant impact on our society, the contours have begun to change. The time the parents are willing to spend with their kids is reducing. With competition running neck deep the parents are under pressure in their professional lives to perform to their best. Some may say that the priorities have changed and our urge for higher standard of living has risen exponentially. Well I would agree with the second point but not with the first. It is a natural human tendency that when we see or experience something better we strive to achieve that. And hence it is no surprise that with the advent of internet and mass media the influence of the West has begun to be seen. We are a developing nation with a huge potential to compete with the developed ones. Therefore we are trying our best to match them in whatever possible areas. But all said and done, the parents of today have the same expectations from their kids as those from the yesteryear. Though the parents of today are more liberal but they still expect their kids to be obliging,understanding and respectful. So it would be wrong to say that the priorities have changed. Probably the way we are going about it is changing. We want our kids to be competitive from the minimum age possible. Hence whatever little time the parents spend with their kids is unconsciously about discussing the ways to improve further mostly in studies, may be sometimes in extra curricular activities. What we, as parents, are forgetting is that career is only a part of life and not the entire life in itself. Hence an understanding of indigenous social and cultural practices is no less important than the demystification of the theory of relativity or solving the Pythagoras theorem.
I firmly believe the generation of today's parents bears the highest resposibility in shaping the society of tomorrow. It is they who have the maturity to criticize the orthodoxies of the past and yet continue to be reverent. Let us not shy away from the undeniable postion of the adolescents of today: they are teeming with information, continue to be demanding and aggressive in their pursuits. They are like the waters of a river whose boundary is being redrawn. Hence the parents must guide the next generation in taking a somewhat central path without blindly copying the Western culture. This mandates taking a pause from our dailiy chores and creating an interactive environment where the seeds of the yesterday's society do not dry up.